I grew up watching the movies where the guy would ask the girl out. I grew up with parents that would go on dates with each other and my dad would ask my mom out. I grew up thinking that the man should take charge and ask the woman out. Now, in 2013, my views have be altered slightly.
My personal opinion: It does not matter to ME who takes that next step. As long as there is being a step taken. Don't get me wrong, I am a very low-key hopeless romantic, so YES I would love for a guy to ask me on a date and bring me flowers and all the mushy movie stuff. I expect that to happen eventually but if its not on the first date, I wont die! (But 1st impression is everything!) I understand that breaking the ice and asking a person out can be nerve wrecking for some people, but since it's not nerve wrecking for me, I do it (not all the time though). The only problem with being the person to take the next step is that you could be looked at as the person who is supposed to initiate everything and that is where my problem lies. Also, I have been told time and time again that if a man wants you, he'll find a way to get you. No matter how busy or how nervous he is, he will work hard to get you. So does that mean that if a guy hasn't asked a girl out, its safe to say he doesn't really want her? WHO INVENTED THIS DATING CRAP! LOL
Some of the feedback I have gotten on this topic:
@jadore__chanel "I personally don't think it matters. Of course you want to feel wanted you always want that other person to express their feelings first. But hell closed mouths don't get fed. if you want something go after it before someone else realize the prize and wins the race.
@regina_george22 "I think it should be the man. If we have mutual feelings then he should step up to the plate and make the first move. That's part of what makes him a man as well as making the woman feel wanted. I think we still deserve that much."
@Antonio DockaFlocka "It shouldn't matter. It's almost 2014. Who cares who asked first..."
Overall, I think the conclusion is,do what works best for you. If waiting on the guy/girl to ask you has worked for you, stick with that. If asking the guy/girl out has worked for you, stick to that. Or you can do a little of both. But whatever you believe in and are comfortable with doing is what you should do.