Monday, August 20, 2012

R.E.S.P.E.C.T..........

Note from BreAuna...I have only been in one serious relationship in my entire LIFE and I'm not married so it obviously didn't work out. BUT my parents have been married for over 27 years! I have watched their relationship grow over the years. They have set a great example for me! I also know a lot of other married couples and other couples that have been together for years. I also do research on relationships! NOT that any of this is your business! BUT let me help you out...If you do not like what is said on MY BLOG DO NOT READ IT!!!

I recently had a conversation with my boss. She said that she was watching a TV show and they stated that Our generation and the two generations before us are lost when it comes to relationships. They said that there is no hope for these three generations, we do not value marriage and we do not know the meaning of LOVE. She asked me if I agreed with these things and this was my response....

The Problem: I can only speak for this generation...I TOTALLY agree that THIS generation is lost when it comes to relationships. Cheating has become the norm and people are accepting lies left and right. I do not completely blame our generation for the problems that we have now. There is a lack of good and healthy relationships that we can use as an example or a blueprint. No one taught us the value of relationships. NO one taught these young ladies to demand respect and except nothing less than 100% from a man. NO one taught these young men to open doors, pull out chairs and to respect women. No one is teaching...BUT that is not an excuse!

Is there a SOLUTION???
 I do not know the exact answer...but I have some suggestions

Ladies: Stop trying to find yourself in a man! Know and LOVE yourself before you try to get to Know and LOVE a man! When you LOVE and RESPECT yourself you will never let another man cheat on you, lie to you constantly, abuse you, you use and overall Disrespect you! When A MAN sees that YOU love YOU he will LOVE you too! We must demand more from these men! They are cheating because WE allow them to in many ways than 1!!! There are females who do not know their worth which leads them into being okay with being the "sidechick". We have to respect each other and each others relationships! It is not okay for women to mess with a man when we are aware that he is in a relationship!!! As long as there are women who are okay with being nothing but a side chick we will not make any progress.  As long as there are women who will allow a man to cheat on them we will not make any progress. SHARING IS NOT CARING!!!!!

Males: It is important that YOU LOVE YOURSELVES too! As much as you may think that is something that a female needs to work on...Its obvious by some of your selection of females that You all need to love yourselves more as well! You should want a female that expects a lot from you and respects herself and you!  There is no harm in being in a relationship with one person. Giving your all to one woman can be a good thing. If you have a woman that is giving you her all and helping you in anyway possible...if you know she's different than any other female you have come across treat her the way you would treat your mother, or the way you would want a young man to treat your daughter! Personally I feel that the more you entertain the females that disrespect themselves the more females will continue to do so. EXAMPLE: Wale said he wanted an ambitious girl...all of a sudden chicks started going to school and getting jobs....If more males had higher standards...maybe females would step their game up.

I would rather be alone than be in a relationship where I am not happy, and I am getting disrespected! Everyone deserves to be treated with respect! Everyone deserves to be loved!!!! Everyone needs to work on becoming a better them and demanding what you deserve! Its crazy that we will not let a stranger on the street disrespect us but we will allow someone who claims to love us, constanly disrespect us! Raise your standards and do not apologize for doing so!

It will take an honest effort from both males and females in order to change the current situation...until then our generation will continue to be lost!

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

HMMMmmm Interesting!

Recently I have noticed that males have been doing a lot of women bashing. At first I thought maybe a few dudes were going through some similar issues at the same time. THEN I noticed that it was almost every dude on Twitter and Facebook...constantly going in on females...

I find it a tad bit off that so many males can comment on what females do YET do some of those same things themselves...

Example...Males look at females as being insecure if they stay with a male that does not treat them right. BUT I am noticing that a lot of males are doing the exact same thing! Chicks are keying your cars! Sleeping with your bestfriends! BUT you are still with them or messing with them. Doesn't that make you insecure too then? #pause...lets not get started on the type of chicks that you are spending your time with and money on...#strags....yet SOME dudes are soooooooo quick to say that a woman is insecure!

Since we are on the topic of being insecure...I must address this...
Any male that chases after a numerous amount of females is insecure...YEAH I said it!!! As much as a female should be able to be by herself, not be in a relationship, love herself ETC...so should a MALE!!! I know sooo many dudes that CAN'T be alone! They always have to have a girlfriend or a main chick or a handful of chicks!!! Any dude seeking the love and affection of a lot of females needs to have a seat and really think about why he can't be alone. The love from GOD and yourself should be enough...and the love from GOD, yourself, family and ONE woman should really be enough...IM JUST SAYING! MAYBE if you all took some time out...got to know ONE WOMAN...TREATED HER RIGHT...you all would see what its like to have the FULL attention, love and respect from a WOMAN! I'm telling you...its an amazing thing!! (shout out to my Mommy who has been married to my Daddy for 27 years)<<<<It's possible!
A GROWN MAN that is secure with himself does not need/want the attention and affection of many different females..

Moving on...
Ummmm why is it that it's NOT OKAY for a female to want a relationship??? I have seen soooo many dudes call chicks thirsty and tell them to cool out on the looking for a man thing...YET after the sun goes down all the dudes searching for a chick start DM'ing and inboxing trying to get put on? #Pause....FYI God didn't put us on this earth to be alone...So the need and want to be with someone else is natural and normal!!!! I do not think its okay for a male to put a female down just because she is looking for Mr.Right...In no way am I saying that chicks should be super thirtsty to find a dude but You can't look down on her for not wanting to be alone and wanting someone to love her and someone to love...I'M JUST SAYING!

Speaking of Mr.Right.......
OMG not every dude is Mr.Right and I really want you all to know that! This act that SOME dudes have been putting on has got to stop!!! The new game(if you are not aware) is that SOME dudes are acting as if they have had their hearts broken just to get a chick to feel bad for them(for whatever reason). Pretending to be a "Good Guy" is not cool AT ALL! It really makes it hard for the GOOD GUYS that are REALLY out there . Just how strags are out here claiming to be GOOD GIRLS isn't cool...The same rules apply!

Last but not least...this is a personal pet peeve of mine...
IM SOOOO TIRED OF YOU FAKE STEVE HARVEYS!!! Just because he wrote a book trying to help women...doesnt mean that YOU get to shoot shots and try to "help" females with their problems. SHUT UP!!!!! But dont let a female try to help a male understand anything(sports,life) then there is a problem. SMH!

PLEASE STOP REFLECTING YOUR INSECURITIES OFF ONTO OTHER PEOPLE...IT'S NOT CUTE!