Monday, April 8, 2013

High Maintenance

I have heard sooooo many times from males that independent women are high maintenance. I do not agree with this statement at all!!!! Let me explain...

Being an independent woman myself, I do not ask for or need much. I have my own car, crib and I pay all of my bills myself and blah blah blah. If there is a bag I want, I buy it. If my car breaks down, I pay to get it fixed. I work hard everyday from 9am-5pm and sometimes extra hours. I enjoy providing for myself. It's not a big deal to me. That was the way I was raised. My mother was and still is an independent woman. Watching her while I was growing up and her teaching me the lessons that a mother should teach a daughter is the reason I am the woman I am today. 

With that being said, I have everything I want and need so why would I want or need or even expect a man to come into my life and start paying for things that I have already been paying for? The only thing I would want from a man is his time, support, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, somebody to spend my time with. Hell I might even spend a dollar or two on him. BUT I do not need a man to financially provide for me. I was providing for myself before a man was in the picture so I do not expect a man to start providing for me solely because we are dating or in a relationship. I believe that a man's money his is own and a woman's money is her own until they are married or until they have discussed sharing money. A man helping out here and there, every now and then is a very nice gesture but it is not their duty to make sure that bills that I have accumulated over time are taken care of. That is my job. I don't even like asking males for money. The only male I ask for money is MY DADDY! He told me a long time ago that I should never ask a man for money as long as he is alive(unless I'm married). Independent women are problem solvers. If they need money I seriously doubt they will ask you for it. (Ladies there is a such thing as being a little too independent..I'll save that for another post though)

Where guys go wrong...

Dependent females are the ones that are HIGH MAINTENANCE!!! They are very dependent on their spouse. On top of needing attention, time and support...they also need your money! They need help with all of their bills. They make you pay for all of the dates(I am a strong believer that woman can pay for dates sometimes). Those are the females that require you to make a certain amount of money to even hold a conversation with them. The chicks in the club that expect you to buy them a bottle or a drink. Those Types...  Dependent females make males question how they were making it before they came around. Dependent females also give Males a lot of the control due to the fact that they are the ones dishing out all of the cash. I have seen on sooo many different occasions  females that let males walk all over them and disrespect them because the male is in control of their finances. (if you are the controlling type, get you a dependent chick). 

GUYS: My advice...Find a WOMAN who has her own! A WOMAN who will not NEED your money! A WOMAN who can make it financially without you. Yes it maybe a little intimidating, but in the long run it will save you a lot of wasted time and money. And it may even save you a lot of headaches and stress. Independent WOMEN really just want your time and your love...

6 comments:

  1. Can the church say AMEN, can the church say AMEN!! I wholeheartedly agree with this post from the beginning to the end! A man should want a woman that can hold her own and then some. Girl, don't get me started with this..lol. Just like it's nothing wrong with a woman being independent, a woman should also know when to let a man be a man and not be so defensive when it comes to certain things...

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I am happy that you agree. A woman should be able to hold her own and a man should be willing to let her do so and step in when he feels that she may need a little help! Thank you for your response!

      Delete
  2. When GUYS find them women with they own, they usually hang it over the guy head. But it should always be a 50/50 split no matter what. She about love even when you don't have things sometimes

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. women who have their own cant hold it over a guys head if he has his own as well or is working towards getting his own. but i have seen some women who do that.

      Delete
  3. This is an excellent post couldnt agree more ...your getting pretty good at this!

    ReplyDelete