Tuesday, April 23, 2013

You Are What You Post...

Recently I have seen a trend on instagram, twitter and Facebook  A lot of males are posting pictures of their new shoes, new clothes, new belt buckles and all of their money. Do not get me wrong it is your profile so feel free to post what you want. BUT SOME of those same males have complained about the type of females  they come across. I have also noticed that a lot of females are posting pictures with their body parts out, or pictures with the main focus being a body part. Those same females swear up and down that dudes are thirsty and how they can't seem to find a nice gentlemen. That made me think, Are you what you post? Does what you post have anything to do with the type of people you attract via these social sites or even in real life? My opinion, YES it does.

Let me explain...

The Guy: post pictures of money, cars, clothes, watches, belt buckles(i seriously am so over the belt buckle pic), bottles they popped in the club. He posts statuses about getting money, how he's about to slide and get the new Js early and things like that. What type of female do you really think is going to be attracted to that type of guy??? NO she does not know him personally, maybe she never met him BUT a gold digger can sniff out a dollar anywhere. Posting things like that attract females who may not have those things and think that a guy with those things will give them to her. AND more than likely you aren't just posting these things, you're wearing them outside. I'm not against nice expensive things but that flashy ish will attract basic birds quicker than you think.If you are trying to find a nice woman who isn't impressed easily with the things you have, changing your approach may help. BUT if you are this type of guy, and that is the type of female you want by all mean #CarryOn 




Personally, as a woman...It is a major turn off for a grown man to flaunt  what he has. The same way guys do not want a female who post naked pics(even though yall have a field day liking those pics!...post for another day), grown women do not want a man who post pics to prove to the world what he has. A grown man that works hard and takes care of himself is very sexy...but a male that has to prove that his finances are in order to the world wide web...that's not cute boo boo!


The Girl: All ass shots or pictures that make her ass the main focus of the picture. Some pictures where her breast are the main focus of the picture. Don't get me wrong, some females post pictures of popping bottles in the club and pictures of their check when they cash it. What type of male do you think would be attracted to a female who does these things. Of course males are going to like your pictures with your ass all out. Of course they are going to leave comments on those types of pictures. Males who are not used to seeing an ass  or breast on a daily basis are more willing to offer up "compliments" which in return make them seem thirsty...BUT you have pics of your ass and boobs on your page which somewhat makes you seem thirsty as well... for attention. Maybe switch up your approach. Try posting a picture of your face, or of the new food you tried at a new restaurant. You may not get as many likes but the males you attract to your page maybe a little different than the usual.



Do not get me wrong, you should not be judged off of what you post on your page BUT we don't live in a perfect world so you will be judged no matter what... So if you aren't just clothes and money...if you're not just ass and tits... you might want to slow down on posting pics of clothes, money, ass and tits. And low-key gold diggers can sniff out a dollar but people with nothing can sniff out a person with something and either rob you or cling to you and use you.

So many people say "it's just instagram...it's just facebook....it's just twitter" but you wouldn't be able to use that excuse with a possible employer if they found your facebook, instagram or twitter. These social sites can get you into a lot of trouble if you post the wrong thing. I have heard of people getting stalked from what they have posted. What you post can get you the WRONG type of attention. Your page can be viewed as a reflection of you. BE CAREFUL!



19 comments:

  1. You did it once again! I love it!!! It's about how you present yourself. You're flaunting things that people want. When you know who you are as a man or woman you don't need to flaunt. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. Change how you present yourself and you can possibly find ppl who are worthy of you and not what you have. Ppl seem to accept that money clothes or even your body make you who you are and it doesn't. It shows insecurity in yourself when flaunting then complain about who you attract. Of course ppl are attracted to things, but can they be attracted to a person's mind, heart, intelligence. You can't change ppl but you change you and once you do that you will see a change of ppl

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    1. It is all in how you present yourself. Somethings just shouldn't be posted. Thank you for taking your time out to read and comment.

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  2. GREAT JOB BRE..WELL SAID...I HAVE PLENTY OF FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK AND INSTAGRAM THAT POST PICTURES LIKE THAT...LIKE U SAID U NEVER KNOWS WHO'S WATCHING..(STALKER, KILLER, RAPISTS, CREEP, FREAK AND MOST OF ALL EMPLOYMENT)...I AM A MOTHER AND A LADY FIRST SO I DO CARE ABOUT WHAT'S BEING POST ON MY PAGE...I HAVE A REPUTATION FOR MYSELF AND HAVING TITS AND ASS OUT WILL NOT GET YOU FAR...

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    1. yes! especially the rapist. that personally scares the hell out of me!! Thank you for taking time out to read and comment!

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  3. I like this. Very well put. People need to understand that as much as they think what they are posting is irrelevant, it is still important in the representaion of who they are.

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  4. Could not have said it better! Obviously the individuals who choose to flaunt their assets do not understand their worth. I personally understand that neither my finances nor my beauty defines me, but my actions and what I speak do! If only it was that easy for our people to understand. A question I would like to raise is why does the black community glorify drug dealers and strippers? Majority of those who you see flaunting on these social networks are either one or close to it! I can place the blame on music and the media because it is a powerful tool that blacks allow to dictate their lives. I will also put it on blacks for not realizing their worth and how powerful they can be.

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    1. i would like to know why people glorify strippers and drug dealers too. I would love to write about it but I really do not have the answer lbs. Thank you for reading and commenting!

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  5. Girrrrrllllll!!!! Guys that post pix of all that materialistic bs goes to show u that ppl arent used to having anything! A belt buckle?! I dont give a flying f*#k about a ysl belt...do u have benefits? 401k? 5yr plan? Show me that u have a real career and goals so I know youre a real man!!!! And as for the females smh, they like the attention most likely thats tge only thing they have going for themselves. The sad part is we cant even talk to fellow ppl to let them know this isnt cool without being called a hater....smh we have to do better....good job bre!

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    1. People don't get it. But hopefully this will help! lbs! thank u for reading and commenting!

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  6. You are absolutely correct! You are perceived by what you post! What you post is a part of who you are and a reflection of what you represent or what you allow to represent who you.

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    1. Yes!!! Yes!! Yes! Thank u for reading and commenting!

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  7. Good post sis, you are what you post! The words and phrases that ppl post are thoughts that are generated by that persons mind! Ppl say "it's just twitter or Facebook" but it's more than that. If a person is mellow/funny in real life but always post ignorant, mean statuses then that person is portrayed as a mean, ignorant person. You know how I feel abt FB stats and tweets lol. Not to add that it is now not illegal for bosses to ask for FB information

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  8. Im a trapper for life....I post what I want lol - @Bucklesup

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  9. This hit the nail on the coffin. Guys are guilty and the girls are just as well. I would have offered rebuttal but this post was perfect.

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  10. This is so true. I hate when niggas stunt n when a female over do the ass pics n hate when us guys look at her as just a peice of ass.

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  11. True true true .........n my opinion I really believe fb.ig .n tw..WAS CREATED FOR WORLD ENTERTAINMENT.....ITs SO MUCH THINGs I FOUND ON FB LIKE WORLD STAR ....PIC OF PPL DEAD N A CASKET ...A BABY LITERALLY GETTING RAPE ...PPL GETTING LIKES JUST CAUSE THEY JUST BEAT SOMEBODY HALF 2death!!! Ect....when these (boys) post about there things I literally keep goin first off n reality they still live wit. Mom grandma or aunt ect...n have 2 sneek the dumb female they get 4the nite in the house simply straight ass holes!!(if u date off fb ig tw u get wat u lookin 4) 2 the females its one thing when they showing off there booty but wat kills me is the videos REALLY NEWS FLASH!!! U AIN'T GETTING NOTHING BUT (LIKE) n man just lusting over u..u have ur whole ass n A camera 4 5min or more but u lookin 4 a good man!!! Smh it's 2013 n females still getting trains ran on them getting tape having sex Damn y'all didn't learn. Nothing from Kim k ???? Just knw. U will be on the web before u wake up the next morning!!! Over all feel like we as n this generation don't have no repeat 4 each other both male n females if u don'T RESPECT URSELF Y SHOULD THE NEXT PERSON???# SADE BROWN

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