Know Your Role and SHUT YOUR MOUTH

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One thing I have noticed on facebook and on my TL on twitter is that there are wayyyyy toooo many bitter FEMALES in this world!!! I have reached a conclusion...Females have a major problem with taking responsibility for the part they played in getting their hearts broken!

Let me explain...
I was in a relationship where I was constantly and consistanly being cheated on by the person that I was in a relationship with. The first time that I found out it shocked the hell out of me! I had no idea what I was supposed to do so...I stayed around, secretly hoping and praying that it would not happen again. BUT we all know how that goes. Dude def.cheated on me again...and again...and again...hell I lost count!!! I still stayed and hoped that things would get better and that things would change. If you ask anybody that knows me or knows of me...I am not the type to take anyones bullshit...but I took his because I loved him...I was bitter for a long lil min! BUT what I realized while drowning in my sorrow and bitterness...It was my fault I was bitter...

Dont get me wrong...
What he did was not right! No matter how many chances I gave him, he shouldn't have taken advantage of the situation and continued to do what he did. BUT I was wrong too! I was wrong for staying when I knew that I should have left! I was wrong for not loving and respecting myself enough to get my Loyal, Loving and Caring ass up and leave! The first time it happened I should have left BUT I did not. From that point on I was responsible for everything that happened to my heart. NOT HIM! He showed me who he was and I chose to ignore all the FLASHING RED LIGHTS! I ALLOWED him to continue to hurt me!!!

Ladies...STOP BLAMING THESE DUDES FOR YOU BEING BITTER AND NOT TRUSTING MALES!!! Take a step back and figure out the ROLE you played in getting your heart broken! And once you have figured that out...SHUT UP about it already!!! It happened...Its over!!!

NO...
I am not saying that getting over a dude that you onced loved is easy! By no means am I saying that it is completely your fault that things happened the way that they did. BUT I am saying, listen to your heart and use your brain at the same time!

If a man continues to cheat and YOU allow him to do so...and YOU STAY...he will never learn not to cheat! He will continue! That's like when a child does something wrong and they do not get in trouble for it, they will continue to do it! If you stay in a relationship with a cheater...YOU are saying that it is okay for them to cheat and they have NO reason to stop....!

him VS HIM

He said he wants to give her the world
But she unknowingly gave her heart to the dude who said he wasn't ready for a girl
The other guy tell her things that she's always wanted to hear
But it would mean so much more if those words we whispered by the one she wants, in her ear
She's ready to leave, but him being too late to catch on is her greatest fear
She plays her role but she makes silent moves
In a race that he's already winning, he has no idea what he's about to lose
Tired of the confusion, she walks away
Only to be pulled back into the confusion yet another day

The One That Got Away

Yo guys told you to stay away from a girl like me
I'm like you kryptonite,when I'm around you get weak
But I build you up at the same time, its not for them to understand, its too deep
When we're together its like we're the only 1s up and the rest of the world is sleep
But you ignore your heart and listen to your friends
You dial my number and quickly press end
You pour your heart out in a text but never press send
And you hope that I won't forget you and will think about you every now and then
With the help of those same homies, you'll get over me one day
But you change my name in your phone to "The One That Got Away"...

The Real Him...

The crazy part about it is...I'll probably know you better than your next girlfriend ever will. Thanks to me that fear in your heart doesn't exist anymore. I did all the work and she'll reap the benefits. I'm the one you told your secrets to. The one you trusted after not trusting anyone. I never broke that trust. Within that, you were able to trust more. And that's when she came along. You were never as comfortable with her and you were with me. You never trusted her as much as you trusted me. That is what scares you. The fact that I...one person...could hold you secrets, hold your hand and hold your heart all at the same time without dropping it...! Instead of facing your fears you ran. You ran into the arms of a person that will never know the real you and that makes you feel good. I know your flaws and never judged you because of them. I embraced them with you and supported you through it all. But with her...you don't have flaws. She sees the perfect man. I know you're not perfect and that's what attracts me to you. She'll never see what I see because you will never show her what you showed me...The real You

Driven By Fear

Having hoes is alright
But you're constantly searching for love in the wrong places, which in return leaves you alone a night
The perfect person for you could be in front of your face but the walls around your heart are too tall, so she's out of your sight
You blame the position that you're in now, on your past
Never taking responsibility for the part you played in relationships that you knew wouldn't last
Hoping that some girl will teach u how to love but you refuse to attend that class
You mentally yearn for some stimulation
But to avoid the thought of getting hurt, you go for the chicks who will only provide you with sexual relations
Once upon a time you weren't ready, now your decisions are driven by fear
One day you'll wake up alone and realize that the one person that could love you unconditionally has been around for years
You'll reach out for her and she'll no longer be here.

This Guy...

I had this guy named John and he was koo
But I couldn't get past the fact that he never finished high school
Then there was David he was the trap or die type
Nigga was up on the latest clothes but couldn't figure out how to work facebook or skype O.o
My least favorite I nicked named him Pookie
His conversation was wack, all he ever talked about was how he wanted to do me -___-
Oh yea I cant forget Mack, I thought he was my kind of dude
but he didn't open doors or pull out chairs, he was lowkey rude
next came Ced he acted way too much like a little kid
He went through my purse and phone, tried to keep track on everything i did
Then there was Sean, the nigga with the trust issues
always complaining the ex that cheated, Somebody get this guy a tissue
I almost forgot about Marvin, the nigga thought he was chris brown!
He must have thought I was Rihanna but when he raised his hand I knocked that nigga DOWN
There was this guy Tim.............
He claimed to only want to be friends, BUT he only wanted me to talk to him
This other guy Jay, we talked for a while
Until I got a text from his phone that said "Jay is my man"...it was from the mother of his child
Can't forget about the church going, saved and sanctified guy Dre
He was cheating ass dog at night, but a saved pastor by day
Jarvis was my almost favorite, and to say almost maybe petty
He was a good guy, He acted like my man, but when it came to commitment, he claimed he wasn't ready
All these dudes had some type of good qualities
If I could take all of those things and smash them together, I could build the perfect guy for me!
LOL

Our Generation...

Somewhere between the past and the present, cheating became expected
People not breaking up and moving on became the norm because weak ass apologies became accepted
In our generation, settling to avoid being alone is the new trend
At the rate we're going thing will get worse before they end
Sleeping alone is all of a sudden starting to bother everybody
So they suck it up and stay with a person who likes to lie and cheat
Our generation is scared to spend time by themselves
Instead of taking time to get over the last, we look to the next for help
People these days get in relationships just to put it on Facebook
You cant stay single too long because it will be viewed as "Not a good look"
People get in relationships just so they wont be alone on Valentines day
We ignore the ones that adore us because of what our friends might say
Marriage is viewed as "my wifey" or "my hubby"...it's a game
Our generation has yet to scratch the surface of what real love is...I think that's a damn shame!