Monday, May 20, 2013

Guns Killing People or People Killing People?


Guns Killing People or People Killing People?   

Written By: BreAuna Jackson
Edited By: LeMara Perry

The city of Chicago is filled with many sounds. On a normal day you may hear the sound of children playing, ice cream truck melodies or the neighbor’s dog barking.  But there is one sound that has become all too familiar for Chicago residents, the sound of gun shots.

Chicago, a place once known for its thick crust pizza and championship basketball team, is now making headline news across the nation for its gun violence epidemic and the senseless killing of their youth.

Chicago, which has some of the country’s strictest gun laws, reached over 500 homicides due to gun violence last year. That was almost an 85 percent increase from 2011 when 423 people were killed.

Compared to the previous years, the crime rate is higher. In January alone over 43 people were killed.  
The most recent stories include 15-year-old Hadiya Pendleton and six month old Jonylah Watkins who were both shot and killed on the city’s south side. Pendleton, who just one week prior to her death performed at President Obama’s second inauguration, was shot in the back while standing outside with friends after taking her final exams. Watkins was shot to death in the front seat of a car as her father changed her diaper.

Although these stories brought political and media attention to the ongoing gun violence epidemic in Chicago, the violence did not start or end there. Mourning families and friends have long suffered the loss of their loved ones in the city. But it’s the recent rise violence, particularly gun violence, which leaves Chicago residents wondering what the problem is and where the solution lies.

Two Chicago residents, Rashida Olayiwola and Shontay Newsome, both lost close relatives to the gun violence in the city.

Olayiwola’s cousin, 26-year-old Dernardo Collins, was shot three times in front of his home in April of 1998.

“My cousin was so handsome so all the girls wanted him,” said Olayiwola. “Every new item he had to have because he was a effortlessly fly guy & genuinely nice to everyone! Family meant the world to him!”

Newsome lost her cousin, Dave Scott, on April 24, 2004. Scott was shot in the head on Chicago’s West Side. Newsome attributes the lack of parenting to the increase of violence in Chicago.

“These kids think it’s cool to try to be the toughest or the baddest. They think it is cool to hang out on corners and sell drugs,” she said. “When I was growing up I wasn’t allowed to do those things. My family made sure that I was in school and not hanging on corners.”  

Pastor Phil Jackson of Tha House Covenant Church on Chicago’s West Side also believes that the lack of parenting has played a factor in the rise of gun violence in the city.

Being a youth pastor, Jackson has had to attend several funerals for young people killed in Chicago. “Parents aren’t raising their children, the streets are. The old saying, “It takes a village to raise a child” doesn’t apply anymore,” said Jackson.

“Some adults are scared to get involved with the kids in the neighborhood. We have to take our kids back from the streets. We have to take our blocks back. We have to get involved and help these kids.”

 Jackson is a firm believer in meeting kids where they are in order to take them to where God wants them to be. Tha House Covenant Church, a hip hop worship experience, is doing their part in taking the streets back by going block by block praying for the youth.  They also hold several community outreach events like the annual hip hop revival which features an outdoor concert, break dance competition, and graffiti battle.

 “Our children need to know that we are here to help them. They need to feel safe just like we adults have the need to feel safe,” said Jackson. “Not all of the children in Chicago are gang bangers and drug dealers. They just need our help and our guidance.”

In an effort to reduce crime, the Chicago Police Department has assigned rookie officers to foot patrol in some Chicago’s higher crime rate areas. So far over 1,550 firearms have been recovered as officers walk their beat.

Although it may seem to others that gun violence is the norm in Chicago, it is definitely a problem that citizens are hoping to do without some day; someday soon. Olayiwola, Newsome and Jackson hope that through parental involvement and the hard work and dedication of city residents, leaders and officials, Chicago can go back to the great pizza city that it was once known for.  

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

You Are What You Post...

Recently I have seen a trend on instagram, twitter and Facebook  A lot of males are posting pictures of their new shoes, new clothes, new belt buckles and all of their money. Do not get me wrong it is your profile so feel free to post what you want. BUT SOME of those same males have complained about the type of females  they come across. I have also noticed that a lot of females are posting pictures with their body parts out, or pictures with the main focus being a body part. Those same females swear up and down that dudes are thirsty and how they can't seem to find a nice gentlemen. That made me think, Are you what you post? Does what you post have anything to do with the type of people you attract via these social sites or even in real life? My opinion, YES it does.

Let me explain...

The Guy: post pictures of money, cars, clothes, watches, belt buckles(i seriously am so over the belt buckle pic), bottles they popped in the club. He posts statuses about getting money, how he's about to slide and get the new Js early and things like that. What type of female do you really think is going to be attracted to that type of guy??? NO she does not know him personally, maybe she never met him BUT a gold digger can sniff out a dollar anywhere. Posting things like that attract females who may not have those things and think that a guy with those things will give them to her. AND more than likely you aren't just posting these things, you're wearing them outside. I'm not against nice expensive things but that flashy ish will attract basic birds quicker than you think.If you are trying to find a nice woman who isn't impressed easily with the things you have, changing your approach may help. BUT if you are this type of guy, and that is the type of female you want by all mean #CarryOn 




Personally, as a woman...It is a major turn off for a grown man to flaunt  what he has. The same way guys do not want a female who post naked pics(even though yall have a field day liking those pics!...post for another day), grown women do not want a man who post pics to prove to the world what he has. A grown man that works hard and takes care of himself is very sexy...but a male that has to prove that his finances are in order to the world wide web...that's not cute boo boo!


The Girl: All ass shots or pictures that make her ass the main focus of the picture. Some pictures where her breast are the main focus of the picture. Don't get me wrong, some females post pictures of popping bottles in the club and pictures of their check when they cash it. What type of male do you think would be attracted to a female who does these things. Of course males are going to like your pictures with your ass all out. Of course they are going to leave comments on those types of pictures. Males who are not used to seeing an ass  or breast on a daily basis are more willing to offer up "compliments" which in return make them seem thirsty...BUT you have pics of your ass and boobs on your page which somewhat makes you seem thirsty as well... for attention. Maybe switch up your approach. Try posting a picture of your face, or of the new food you tried at a new restaurant. You may not get as many likes but the males you attract to your page maybe a little different than the usual.



Do not get me wrong, you should not be judged off of what you post on your page BUT we don't live in a perfect world so you will be judged no matter what... So if you aren't just clothes and money...if you're not just ass and tits... you might want to slow down on posting pics of clothes, money, ass and tits. And low-key gold diggers can sniff out a dollar but people with nothing can sniff out a person with something and either rob you or cling to you and use you.

So many people say "it's just instagram...it's just facebook....it's just twitter" but you wouldn't be able to use that excuse with a possible employer if they found your facebook, instagram or twitter. These social sites can get you into a lot of trouble if you post the wrong thing. I have heard of people getting stalked from what they have posted. What you post can get you the WRONG type of attention. Your page can be viewed as a reflection of you. BE CAREFUL!



Wednesday, April 17, 2013

BAD...

Its bad that I never made love and I'm not sure of what that feels like
The dudes I run into seem to only want my body but then claim I'm the wife type
I open my ears to their words but my heart is cold
They sale dreams left and right but I'm not sold
Send me a smiley face and a good morning text
After a few months of the basics they think I owe them sex
What ever happened to long conversations
There seems to be a lack of mental stimulation
I'm a labeled as a "bitter girl" if explain my situation
I don't believe that all guys are bad but some are 
From that, I've learned to love guys from a far
Because they don't appreciate my story and don't understand my scars
So excuse me if I don't trust you with my heart
I've never experienced a guy who is sincere from the start
Knowing who and who not to let in, that's the hard part...


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Monday, April 8, 2013

High Maintenance

I have heard sooooo many times from males that independent women are high maintenance. I do not agree with this statement at all!!!! Let me explain...

Being an independent woman myself, I do not ask for or need much. I have my own car, crib and I pay all of my bills myself and blah blah blah. If there is a bag I want, I buy it. If my car breaks down, I pay to get it fixed. I work hard everyday from 9am-5pm and sometimes extra hours. I enjoy providing for myself. It's not a big deal to me. That was the way I was raised. My mother was and still is an independent woman. Watching her while I was growing up and her teaching me the lessons that a mother should teach a daughter is the reason I am the woman I am today. 

With that being said, I have everything I want and need so why would I want or need or even expect a man to come into my life and start paying for things that I have already been paying for? The only thing I would want from a man is his time, support, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, somebody to spend my time with. Hell I might even spend a dollar or two on him. BUT I do not need a man to financially provide for me. I was providing for myself before a man was in the picture so I do not expect a man to start providing for me solely because we are dating or in a relationship. I believe that a man's money his is own and a woman's money is her own until they are married or until they have discussed sharing money. A man helping out here and there, every now and then is a very nice gesture but it is not their duty to make sure that bills that I have accumulated over time are taken care of. That is my job. I don't even like asking males for money. The only male I ask for money is MY DADDY! He told me a long time ago that I should never ask a man for money as long as he is alive(unless I'm married). Independent women are problem solvers. If they need money I seriously doubt they will ask you for it. (Ladies there is a such thing as being a little too independent..I'll save that for another post though)

Where guys go wrong...

Dependent females are the ones that are HIGH MAINTENANCE!!! They are very dependent on their spouse. On top of needing attention, time and support...they also need your money! They need help with all of their bills. They make you pay for all of the dates(I am a strong believer that woman can pay for dates sometimes). Those are the females that require you to make a certain amount of money to even hold a conversation with them. The chicks in the club that expect you to buy them a bottle or a drink. Those Types...  Dependent females make males question how they were making it before they came around. Dependent females also give Males a lot of the control due to the fact that they are the ones dishing out all of the cash. I have seen on sooo many different occasions  females that let males walk all over them and disrespect them because the male is in control of their finances. (if you are the controlling type, get you a dependent chick). 

GUYS: My advice...Find a WOMAN who has her own! A WOMAN who will not NEED your money! A WOMAN who can make it financially without you. Yes it maybe a little intimidating, but in the long run it will save you a lot of wasted time and money. And it may even save you a lot of headaches and stress. Independent WOMEN really just want your time and your love...

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Alone...

I recently posted something on instagram ( @_MrsWrite ...shameless plug lol) and it said 

"You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person. You need to know how to be happy with yourself before you try to be happy with someone else. If you can't love yourself, how do you expect someone else to love you"


Seeing that I have recently been called a "Media Junky" I thought I would share with you the types of people that I have noticed in the past few months via facebook/twitter/instagram and in my everyday/every other day life...


The first person is a "Relationship Hopper"! They break-up with or stop talking to one person and start with another person a day later. You know the people you see on Facebook who are in love with one person one day and the next they are with someone else and are "all smiles"! Yeah those people! As irritating as that may be, a lot of people do not notice what they are doing to themselves. I have seen this from males and females. I am a strong believer of when you end a relationship with one person, you should take time to reflect on the situation. See what you did wrong, what that person did wrong and how you can make sure it doesn't happen again. There is always room for improvement but you can't make those changes without assessing what went wrong. This DOES NOT MEAN drown in your tears and cry listening to Keyshia Cole or Jay-Z Song Cry every night. This simply means take a step back and figure out what is going on. I do not believe that you can do this while being in a relationship with an entirely different person. WHY? you ask...Because your focus is on them, how they make you feel and how you make them feel. Your focus is not on the past because at the current moment you might be "happy" (and i use the word "happy" loosely). SOO many times I have seen people hop around from one relationship to the next and they can never figure out why things are not working out. MAYBE the problem isn't them, Maybe it's you!!!

The other type of person I see is the person who stays in a relationship way too long because they are scared to be by themselves or they are scared to start all over (Raises hand, I'm guilty of that). Those are the people who you see on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram who are in love one day, saying they hate their spouse the next day and 3 days after that are back in love. I have also seen this, from males and females.   Sometimes you have to just walk away from people and never look back. Scary I know but it can be done. But there is no way you can bring happiness to someone else if you are not happy yourself. If you are in a miserable relationship, and you are a miserable person, no matter what that person does, no matter how great they may be, you will bring misery to them as well. Misery loves company!!!

This is a lesson I had to learn on my own a few years ago. After a rough break-up I found myself, by myself. I spent a lot of time getting to know myself. It was a scary place to be, because at no time in my life before that moment had I taken real time out to get to know who I really was, and I'm still learning! I learned what I liked, what I didn't like. What I wanted and what I did not want. Personally, it took me to actually ask myself those questions, and it took for me to be by myself, alone, to figure those things out. It was not easy. Being alone is not always the easiest thing to do. TRUST ME, I've been there, I've done that. Getting to know yourself is an amazing experience! The things that I learned about me have changed me for the better. My overall morals and values stayed the same but I defined those things for myself. But getting to know yourself and loving yourself isn't about bringing happiness to other people, its about bringing happiness to yourself. I have a joy that no one can ever steal from me because they didn't give it to me. YES people do add to my happiness but they can never take away from it. That is something I learned from taking time out to step back from people, and spending time alone and away from everyone.

I'm not sure when being alone became such a horrible thing. I know that I have family and friends supporting me so I know that I am not alone in this world. But spending time alone and getting to know yourself is priceless. There are experiences that teach you things about yourself, there are people that will teach you about yourself, but there is no greater lesson learned by you than the lesson taught by you!

PS.....take yourself on a date! Go buy yourself some new shoes! Make yourself a huge dinner! Go to the movies by yourself. Those small things, and that time spent alone will become more and more valuable as we get older because we will be surrounded by people all the time and wish that we could have a moment alone! 




Thursday, November 15, 2012

My Friend...Steve Agee

Almost a year ago I lost a good friend...Steve Agee! He was one of those people for me...one of those always smiling, always joking...an overall GREAT person! He gave thee best hugs! Through losing Steve I learned to not question GOD and the things that he does because even when he answers, I STILL don't understand. I miss my friend...I really miss my friend...But in my own little way I'm making sure his memory stays alive. After you read this poem...if you knew Steve please leave a memory of him in the comment box below, and if you did not know Steve I hope this helps you get to know him... just a little.

I never in a million years thought I'd miss you in this way

You not being here so I can hear your laugh or hug you...I never thought I'd see the day

The hurt in your loved ones eyes still remains

Life goes on they say...but it just doesn't feel the same

Those jokes...those precious moments...I'd give anything for another

I know I'm hurting...but I cant imagine the pain of your brother...father...and your mother...

But there is one thing that I want you to know, we will keep your memory alive

We will do our best in all we do, for greatness we will strive

You taught me to not worry about every little thing, just hop on life's rollercoaster and ride

You inspired so many and we all want to do the same

So there are so many things being started up in your memory, in yout name

So yes we still hurt from losing you but in that loss you have opened so many doors

We are forever reminded that life is ABOUT SO MUCH MORE




Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Letter to my 5 year old self...

Dear BreAuna aka Bre(lol)

       I hope that you are ready for a life that no one but GOD knew you would live. There will be many ups, BUT there will be a lot of downs. At one point in your life, your downs will make you feel beyond low. You will feel as if nothing you do is good enough. Not good enough for your friends, not good enough for your family, not good enough for the world and not good enough for GOD. You will grow up knowing that GOD and your family love you NO MATTER WHAT, but there will come a time when that is not enough. You will search for love in what seems to be all of the wrong places. BUT what you will learn from that search is that the love you were searching for has been in your face your entire life. NO dude will be able to love you more than GOD. And when you do meet a nice, loving and caring MAN, he won’t make you feel alone. He'll be there whenever you need him. He'll see that you are clearly a dork and corny as hell, but he'll still stick around, and he'll laugh at your horrible jokes!! Let your guard down, he won’t hurt you. There will come a time when you will not know who you are, what you are here for and why GOD placed you in a family where you will feel as if you do not belong. There is a reason for everything HE does, so do not fear what he has in store for you. Some nights you will cry yourself to sleep because you will feel as if you do not fit in. People will make you feel as if you have to change who YOU are to make THEM feel more comfortable in THEIR skin. DO NOT CHANGE!!!!!!! You will always be outspoken and head strong but that is a part of who you are. That is how GOD created you and if GOD wanted the input of others on how to create you I'm sure he would have asked them for their help. BUT since he didn't tell them to shut the hell up!!! You will have a lot of people you call friends...those people will get you thru some of the hardest times of your life. BUT some of those people will not be around as long as you may think they should be. They will leave you, some will have a "reason", others will not. There is nothing you can do to make people stay in your life! If they want to be there, they will be there! Stay the loyal person that your parents will raise you to be! Even when being fake is what other people are doing around you, stay loyal!!! Stay loyal to your friends, family, boyfriends, and GOD. And do not forget to stay loyal to yourself! Your family, as irritating and crazy as they maybe, show them as much love as possible. They love you! NO MATTER WHAT, THEY LOVE YOU! THEY LOVE YOUR SMILE! THEY LOVE YOUR STYLE! THEY LOVE YOU EVEN WHEN YOU PISS THEM OFF! THEY LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO! Oh yea...when you get older there are some people that you will call your friends...those people are the true definition of what friends should be. And even though some friends will hurt you, these friends are different. They love you for the head strong, independent, outspoke person who are! They will show you what it is like to have people in your corner no matter what happens between you. And don’t forget about you baby....She will look up to you! She will try to mirror some things you do. You are an example for her; pave the way for her and your older brother! I know it may sound crazy now, but they both depend on you. Remember to make yourself happy even if it means that others do not agree with what you are doing. Last but not least BreAuna...Even when you feel alone, and you feel low, and you feel as if your best isn't good enough...when you feel like crying...when you feel like smiling...when you feel stressed...and when you are at your best...remember to give GOD all the praise BECAUSE LITERALLY...WITHOUT HIM YOU WOULD NOT BE HERE....HE'S THE ONLY ONE THAT LOVED YOU THE DAY YOU ENTERED THIS EARTH...WHEN YOU DIDN'[T HAVE NAME...WHEN YOU DIDN'T HAVE A FAMILY...HE WRAPPED HIS ARMS AROUND YOU AND CAREFULLY PLACED YOU WHERE YOU SHOULD BE. NO MATTER WHAT HE LOVES YOU!


                                                                                 Sincerly, Your 24 year old self! <3


Writing this letter to myself helped me in so many ways I couldn't even begin to explain! What would you say to yourself at a young age??? Think about it...you may even learn somethings about yourself that you didn't know! <3