You Are What You Post...

Recently I have seen a trend on instagram, twitter and Facebook  A lot of males are posting pictures of their new shoes, new clothes, new belt buckles and all of their money. Do not get me wrong it is your profile so feel free to post what you want. BUT SOME of those same males have complained about the type of females  they come across. I have also noticed that a lot of females are posting pictures with their body parts out, or pictures with the main focus being a body part. Those same females swear up and down that dudes are thirsty and how they can't seem to find a nice gentlemen. That made me think, Are you what you post? Does what you post have anything to do with the type of people you attract via these social sites or even in real life? My opinion, YES it does.

Let me explain...

The Guy: post pictures of money, cars, clothes, watches, belt buckles(i seriously am so over the belt buckle pic), bottles they popped in the club. He posts statuses about getting money, how he's about to slide and get the new Js early and things like that. What type of female do you really think is going to be attracted to that type of guy??? NO she does not know him personally, maybe she never met him BUT a gold digger can sniff out a dollar anywhere. Posting things like that attract females who may not have those things and think that a guy with those things will give them to her. AND more than likely you aren't just posting these things, you're wearing them outside. I'm not against nice expensive things but that flashy ish will attract basic birds quicker than you think.If you are trying to find a nice woman who isn't impressed easily with the things you have, changing your approach may help. BUT if you are this type of guy, and that is the type of female you want by all mean #CarryOn 

Personally, as a woman...It is a major turn off for a grown man to flaunt  what he has. The same way guys do not want a female who post naked pics(even though yall have a field day liking those pics!...post for another day), grown women do not want a man who post pics to prove to the world what he has. A grown man that works hard and takes care of himself is very sexy...but a male that has to prove that his finances are in order to the world wide web...that's not cute boo boo!


The Girl: All ass shots or pictures that make her ass the main focus of the picture. Some pictures where her breast are the main focus of the picture. Don't get me wrong, some females post pictures of popping bottles in the club and pictures of their check when they cash it. What type of male do you think would be attracted to a female who does these things. Of course males are going to like your pictures with your ass all out. Of course they are going to leave comments on those types of pictures. Males who are not used to seeing an ass  or breast on a daily basis are more willing to offer up "compliments" which in return make them seem thirsty...BUT you have pics of your ass and boobs on your page which somewhat makes you seem thirsty as well... for attention. Maybe switch up your approach. Try posting a picture of your face, or of the new food you tried at a new restaurant. You may not get as many likes but the males you attract to your page maybe a little different than the usual.

Do not get me wrong, you should not be judged off of what you post on your page BUT we don't live in a perfect world so you will be judged no matter what... So if you aren't just clothes and money...if you're not just ass and tits... you might want to slow down on posting pics of clothes, money, ass and tits. And low-key gold diggers can sniff out a dollar but people with nothing can sniff out a person with something and either rob you or cling to you and use you.

So many people say "it's just instagram...it's just facebook....it's just twitter" but you wouldn't be able to use that excuse with a possible employer if they found your facebook, instagram or twitter. These social sites can get you into a lot of trouble if you post the wrong thing. I have heard of people getting stalked from what they have posted. What you post can get you the WRONG type of attention. Your page can be viewed as a reflection of you. BE CAREFUL!

BAD...

Its bad that I never made love and I'm not sure of what that feels like

The dudes I run into seem to only want my body but then claim I'm the wife type

I open my ears to their words but my heart is cold

They sale dreams left and right but I'm not sold

Send me a smiley face and a good morning text

After a few months of the basics they think I owe them sex

What ever happened to long conversations

There seems to be a lack of mental stimulation

I'm a labeled as a "bitter girl" if explain my situation

I don't believe that all guys are bad but some are 

From that, I've learned to love guys from a far
Because they don't appreciate my story and don't understand my scars
So excuse me if I don't trust you with my heart
I've never experienced a guy who is sincere from the start
Knowing who and who not to let in, that's the hard part...

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High Maintenance

I have heard sooooo many times from males that independent women are high maintenance. I do not agree with this statement at all!!!! Let me explain...

Being an independent woman myself, I do not ask for or need much. I have my own car, crib and I pay all of my bills myself and blah blah blah. If there is a bag I want, I buy it. If my car breaks down, I pay to get it fixed. I work hard everyday from 9am-5pm and sometimes extra hours. I enjoy providing for myself. It's not a big deal to me. That was the way I was raised. My mother was and still is an independent woman. Watching her while I was growing up and her teaching me the lessons that a mother should teach a daughter is the reason I am the woman I am today. 

With that being said, I have everything I want and need so why would I want or need or even expect a man to come into my life and start paying for things that I have already been paying for? The only thing I would want from a man is his time, support, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, somebody to spend my time with. Hell I might even spend a dollar or two on him. BUT I do not need a man to financially provide for me. I was providing for myself before a man was in the picture so I do not expect a man to start providing for me solely because we are dating or in a relationship. I believe that a man's money his is own and a woman's money is her own until they are married or until they have discussed sharing money. A man helping out here and there, every now and then is a very nice gesture but it is not their duty to make sure that bills that I have accumulated over time are taken care of. That is my job. I don't even like asking males for money. The only male I ask for money is MY DADDY! He told me a long time ago that I should never ask a man for money as long as he is alive(unless I'm married). Independent women are problem solvers. If they need money I seriously doubt they will ask you for it. (Ladies there is a such thing as being a little too independent..I'll save that for another post though)

Where guys go wrong...

Dependent females are the ones that are HIGH MAINTENANCE!!! They are very dependent on their spouse. On top of needing attention, time and support...they also need your money! They need help with all of their bills. They make you pay for all of the dates(I am a strong believer that woman can pay for dates sometimes). Those are the females that require you to make a certain amount of money to even hold a conversation with them. The chicks in the club that expect you to buy them a bottle or a drink. Those Types...  Dependent females make males question how they were making it before they came around. Dependent females also give Males a lot of the control due to the fact that they are the ones dishing out all of the cash. I have seen on sooo many different occasions  females that let males walk all over them and disrespect them because the male is in control of their finances. (if you are the controlling type, get you a dependent chick). 

GUYS: My advice...Find a WOMAN who has her own! A WOMAN who will not NEED your money! A WOMAN who can make it financially without you. Yes it maybe a little intimidating, but in the long run it will save you a lot of wasted time and money. And it may even save you a lot of headaches and stress. Independent WOMEN really just want your time and your love...